Many times when we get upset it’s because of other people’s reactions. Sometimes it’s because someone is just an asshole. Sometimes it’s because a friend gives some unexpected behaviors and it throws you off.
The prior case is pretty common and nothing to become too upset about. There are assholes in the world and it isn’t worth too much feeling bad for them.
The later case, however, is often what hurts most and lasts for quite some time until we can sort of forget about it. We expect our friends to be nice to us, even though the friend may not be a really close friend after all.
Nevertheless, if you really come to think of it, it doesn’t make too much sense to be upset. When a friend is mean to you, there are two possible reasons
- In fact he doesn’t really like you and he sort of accidentally leaked out.
- He is in a bad mood.
If it is case #1, and it is probably that he is in fact an asshole. This is maybe one genuine case where getting upset is reasonable, but not for the friend’s reaction, but realizing that you’ll have to lose a friend.
In case #2, his mood is bad probably due to some bad short term experiences. Maybe he got cheated some money; maybe his girlfriend just wouldn’t be reasonable; maybe he stepped on cat poops in the morning. All of these things you will never be able to know, let alone have control over them.
In the end, maybe we are all too egocentric. The friend is probably feeling himself special and want to be understood about his misfortunes, magically On the other hand, we are sometimes too ignorant to notice what’s really going on and blame the friend for being rude, without trying to understand him.
The next time someone treats you badly, think again: is he doing this because he just had a bad day? That may be the trick to avoid a sour relationship and to turn it into a newer level.
